Elizabeth M. Johnson

Michael Noer’s 8/22 essay in Forbes on why men shouldn’t marry career women has hit a nerve with just about every woman, and more than a few men, I know. I liked the response of the ‘guy on the street’ who when asked his opinion about Noer’s article said that he would love to marry a career woman so he coulde stop work and be a stay-at-home Mr. Mom. Of course, he would. This, is the secret wish of many men, as I continue to overhear, learn and read. Regardless, Noer’s sexist, 50’s style outlook of women today is pretty scary. I am guessing that he isn’t married. And, now, likely he may not ever unless he finds a Stepford wife whom he can control.

Studies have shown that women who work outside the home (or from a home office) are happier & healthier and as a result their families are happier than if those same women didn’t. Additionally, as we know, healthy balance is essential for everyone so having all of our eggs in the ‘marriage’ basket as opposed to multiple baskets (marriage, career, community, relationships, family, spiritual, etc.) is the way to sustain healthy high self-esteem. It would behoove brainless dopes like Noer to spend some time with a female married friend or sister to really examine the life that he is condemning. Perhaps he might learn a few lessons that he hadn’t before…humility and gratitude come to mind.